I am truly sick and tired of trying to explain to ignorant people that homosexuality is not a choice. I am having a sort of debate in a forum that I belong to. However, I have said that I am dropping out of the debate. I only made three or four posts just to let the men know that homosexuality is not a choice. But these men refuse to believe that. They believe it is a choice. My point is this, why would a man choose to be gay? Why would a man choose to grow up in school being called gay, fag, homo being picked on and target of fights. Being the last person to be chosen to play on a team. Why would a man choose to be hated by the world? Why would a man choose to be hated by his church? Why would a man choose to be hated by his family? Why would a man choose to be an abomination before God? That is all just ludicrous and the most ignorant thing I have ever heard in my life. As the saying goes, I chose to be gay the day you chose to be straight. I did not choose to be gay, I just am. I have prayed every single day for my entire life since I realized I was gay as a teenager for God to change me. I did not want to be gay. I have attempted suicide many, many times because I hate myself for being gay. I wanted to get married. I wanted nine children. Why would I chose to give up such a dream and chose to be gay? And if I did, why didn’t I live in the gay lifestyle my entire life? I only spent several years involved in the act of homosexuality. All the other years I was celibate. I chose to be celibate because I believed being gay was a sin, that it was wrong. Here I am gay and I gave up all this stuff because I made a choice to be gay? I think not. I have lived my life in denial to being gay. I hated that side of myself. I hated it. There is no way anyone is going to tell me I chose this. I did not. I spent a good 12 years in ex-gay ministry. I spent at least three years in one on one counseling with Christian Psychiatrists who promised me if I followed what they told me I would be straight and married within the year. It never happened. I never changed. I am just as gay as I was the day I realized I was gay. I went through the Exodus program, I went through Homosexuals Anonymous I have spent years and years in support groups and working through issues and none of it worked. The church is just so ignorant on this topic and it infuriates me, it totally infuriates me. Why in my right mind would I choose a way of life that I hate? That just makes no sense at all. Why would I pray all those many years? Why would I go through all those many years of therapy if I wanted to be gay? That is ludicrous. And this idea that it is caused by sexual abuse and/or overly powerful mothers or absent fathers is also ludicrous. Look how many families there are out there today without a father figure around. Look at how many families that have no father so the mother is the dominate figure in the family. How come we do not have all these gay people because of this? Where are they? How come most of these young men and women grow up to be healthy and whole heterosexuals? Why didn’t they chose to be gay when they were raised the same way the church claims gay men were raised? I know gay men that have come from very stable, loving homes. That is just not the reason a man becomes gay. It is not a choice. Period. Why would God give me a vision? Why did God give me that vision and tell me that I am more precious to Him than a piece of pure gold? If God didn’t love me I certainly would not have had that vision. And that vision was real and God verified it to me. I am a firm believer in God. I am very religious, I am very strong in the faith, I read my bible almost every single day. I know the Bible better than your average Christian does and yet they’re going to tell me I chose this? No, I won’t sit back and take it any longer. It is not a choice. I did not chose to be gay. That is the most ludicrous thing I have ever heard.
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bentcrude Said:
on 19 September 2008 at 12:53 am
hello … please consider doing the coming out interview on my blog …
Brandon Said:
on 19 September 2008 at 2:11 pm
I agree, Corey. No man or woman would wake up and say, “I think I want to become the scourge of society. I want a stigma following me like a monkey on my back.” :hug: I know it takes a boldness to be able to stand up to those who don’t agree with us, but I ended the debate a long time ago and just pray for those people to come to know the truth. :hug: You are loved, but God and by me! You’re such an amazing friend.
“A prudent man concealeth knowledge; but the heart of fools proclaimeth foolishness,” Proverbs 12:23. I am praying for you, Corey, always! <3
matt Said:
on 21 September 2008 at 4:16 pm
good for you core.
you’re right. there is so much science behind being gay that no one wants to listen to. that’s called selective perception when people ignore everything that disproves their line of reasoning. don’t you listen to straight people. most of them tend to hate everything and if god forbid they ran out of things to hate, they’d prolly implode. maybe if straight people had more buttsex they’d be happier. LOL. 
but yes, you did a good job core. 
squish. now keep standing up for yourself and don’t let people tell you how to exist.
Jason Said:
on 22 September 2008 at 12:53 am
Why bother explaining in the first place? You can waste all the breath you want, but it is unlikely that people’s mindsets will be changed no matter how patiently you explain facts to them. I hate to see you worked up – there’s only so many times you can beat your head against the wall before you get a nasty bruise. Just tell it like it is – you like dick the same way straight guys like cunt. That’ll shut them up and make them go away. Pardon the crudeness – I’m not one to watch my language. GRIN
Just a Friend Said:
on 22 September 2008 at 1:22 pm
You know, when I read the Bible…I see that the “sin” of homosexuality is not even serious enough to have made the Lord’s Top Ten List. In the New Testament, Jesus himself says absolutely nothing about it…although it seems to me that He said a lot about Priests and Pharisees that claimed to know the correct interpretation of God’s Word and His Laws.
You have spent many years imploring God to amend his creation (you!) in order to more perfectly conform to what the “Pharisees” of today deem correct and holy.
Why are you trying so hard to fit into this group that does not welcome you exactly as He made you?
Something to think about….
Abigail Said:
on 31 January 2009 at 11:47 pm
Hi Corey –
No you did not choose to be a homosexual, anymore than someone chooses to be a nymph or is prone to substance abuse. It is the sin that entangles you so easily. And God does love you and if you act out on your sin it will grieve the Holy Spirit by whom you have been sealed. I pray for your deliverance from this spirit of perversion. And I don’t say that to condemn you but to assure you that this kind comes out only through prayer and fasting (not saying you’re possessed here – just under an unholy influence). I’ll pray for you and I would probably fast if I wasn’t such a glutton.
BTW, my little sister committed suicide eight years ago and it devastated our family. My other sister just told me the other day that ever since then she has not had any real inner joy and thinks she probably never will. So if you get that idea in your head again don’t lie to yourself and say no one cares. They do and if you kill yourself you kill something within them at the same time.
Acknowledging the sin in agreement with scripture is a vital step to deliverance. If you have to remain celibate your entire life, that does not have to be a bad option. You can be fully devoted to serving Christ without distraction. Time is short!
Jesus loves you,
Abby
Corey Harvard Said:
on 9 February 2009 at 3:54 pm
Abby,
If I could only make you realize that what you’ve just stated is as harmful and ideologically supressive as anything an ex-gay cheerleader might say, I would. The truth is, it’s easy to be on your side of the fence. Sadly, the “encouragement” you’re offering is the same kind of seemingly-harmless language that ends up driving people to commit suicide.
Rick Said:
on 11 May 2009 at 10:06 am
We need help, help, help!